Wow. I have always admired your strength and compassion with everything you write and say. Family is so fragile. I struggle all the time with boundaries and unconditional love. Your line "I hope you find the courage to acknowledge the difference between strong and being flexible" hit home. Flexibility is harder than strength. I am sorry for your pain and loss. I so admire your compassion and strength. Both are hard to maintain when someone you love leaves-- I hope this holidays brings you some joy and warmth. There is such fierce love in this piece.